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Gary’s (19) Question: Dr Dick, I am always attracted to straight guys, some who are my friends and I sometimes fantasize about them. Why is this?

Dr Dick’s response: You are still young and developing your identity as a young male. As humans, we cannot always predict and control whom we get attracted to or who we find attractive. Attraction is not linked to our sexual orientation. Some straight men might find other men attractive even though they are not gay. Some straight women might find another woman attractive even though she is not lesbian. There is nothing wrong with finding your straight friends attractive and fantasising about them – you are appreciating their beauty. The most important thing is to have mutual respect for each other and not to invade each other’s privacy and personal boundaries. Sometimes it remains only a fantasy and no other action will follow and we have to respect that.