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Rimming

Rimming refers to licking your partner’s anal opening. This is achieved by using your tongue to lick in and around his anus, stimulating this sensitive area and relaxing the sphincter muscles (look: Anatomy of the Anus).

If you have never done it, it may sound unappealing to you. One of a man’s most sensitive spots is the anus. If you combine that with the softness and smoothness of a tongue, you may be able to imagine why some guys really like it. Some guys do, and some guys don’t. It is entirely up to you. Rimming is a very intimate act that requires a great deal of trust and closeness.

Rimming can be great foreplay for anal sex as it relaxes the sphincter muscles (look: Anatomy of the Anus). The best position for rimming is doggy style (being on all fours while he works you from behind). Alternatively you could lie on your back and lift your legs while he tucks in. Some guys like soft licking (moving in a circular manner around the anus for example), while others prefer it a bit harder (jabbing at the anus as if penetrating it for example). Just like oral sex, work your way into a rhythm and see what feels best for you and your partner.

Good anal hygiene (look: Safety Zone > Hygiene) is very IMPORTANT! A shower together beforehand might be a good option. Rimming carries with it a considerable risk of transmitting Herpes, Anal Warts and Hepatitis A. In some cases even HIV. You can minimize your risk by always using a cut flavoured condom (look: Safety Zone > Condoms and Lube), a flavoured dental dam (Dental Dams), or if all else fails, non-microwavable cling or glad wrap when rimming. If unsettled by his natural smell and flavor consider using flavoured lube.